Hi, I’m Sam Troemel (She/They), I help partners be each other’s safe haven and secure base, so they can have more intimate, fulfilling, and wonderful relationships.

In our work together, I help partners:

  • Improve communication by slowing down conversations and making space for real emotional understanding.

  • Heal from disconnection by uncovering the attachment needs beneath the surface that drive our behavior.

  • Rebuild trust and security after rupture or betrayal.

  • Strengthen sexual intimacy so you feel deeply connected and valued.

  • Have tough conversations about the future of your relationship.

Learn how to become a secure base (from where each of you can grow and thrive) and a safe haven (offering comfort and connection in times of distress).

Using the evidence-based approaches of Emotionally Focused Therapy & The Gottman Method, I can help you break free from negative cycles and create a relationship where you can turn toward each other with confidence, knowing you have each other’s back.

Whether you’re facing a major challenge or simply want to deepen your bond, I’m here to help you build a relationship that feels safe, strong, and secure.

I also have extensive experience working with queer communities and polyamorous relationships, helping partners navigate unique challenges while fostering secure, affirming, and fulfilling connections. Whatever your relationship structure or identity, I provide a space where you can show up fully as yourself and build a relationship that feels safe, strong, and secure.